About Conscious Dads and Adam Brewer
There is a kinder, gentler way.
Conscious Dads recognize the miraculous nature of LIFE and the GIFT that it is to be a FATHER. As such, they treat the role as SACRED. Conscious Dads feel divinely inspired to father from PRESENCE, CO-CREATION and LOVE.
Conscious Dads practice an integrated approach to parenting. We acknowledge that there is not a one sized fits all when it comes to parenthood. To that end, our “style” is one that has a neuro-biological basis and draws on the best from a number of approaches, including connected parenting, polyvagal parenting, conscious parenting, gentle parenting, and positive parenting.
We see ourselves as multi-dimensional beings...mental, physical, emotional and spiritual. And are willing to work on evolving all of these aspects of self, and incorporate this into how we parent, so as to live as INTEGRATED fathers and beings on planet earth.
Conscious Dads are willing to UNLEARN and RETHINK ancestral patterns of fathering that have been passed down from one generation to the next. From here, they are open to establish their own mindfully masculine approach to parenting.
It's here that we live in awe & wonder, free to become more of who we were meant to be as parents and mentors to our children.
We are are stable & rooted, yet ever-expanding and growing.
Conscious Dads are brave & courageous enough to admit our fears and yet take action in the face of them.
We are not afraid to “fail”.
We are Dads who are wise enough to stop fighting fire with fire. Rather we are like water...adaptable & fluid.
We are Service-Oriented.
We live as men who aren’t afraid to cry; who listen more than they speak; who are spacious, safe, joyful, expansive, and present. We are GRATEFUL, INTENTIONAL and EVER-EVOLVING.
The Top 12 Tenets To Father By As Conscious Dads:
Make fatherhood sacred
Lead with love
Connect before you correct
Cocreate rather than dominate
Model what you want your kids to mirror
Raise sovereign beings, not mini-mes
Recognize our children are our teachers as much as we are theirs
Be growth-centric…keep going, growing and unfolding
Be an unwavering force for good in your child’s life
Admit your mistakes/apologize, learn from them, then be better
Allow yourself to feel the highs, lows and everything in between
Practice self-care early and often
We do the work on ourselves because we fully understand that if you want to see it, you must be it. That is, if we want to raise "integrated" children who are kind, caring, loving, confident, joyful, generous, resourceful, compassionate, helpful, empathetic, playful, creative, peaceful, inclusive, and philanthropic, we MUST first embody and exemplify these very same qualities ourselves.
My road to becoming a self-proclaimed kick-ass, conscious Dad was a rocky one.
In fact I resisted it with every fiber of my being. So much so that It lead to a full-on breakdown.
I can tell you this; the darkness was necessary and essential for me to find the Light that exists within all of us and to experience the totality of the gift of living as a human "being". So many blessings have come from my descent into the dark. Not the least of which is that I know I have found my calling.
The real "crazy" part about my story, is this; that which I was resisting the most was that which I was meant to do and be on this planet. I can say to you without a shadow of a doubt in my body, mind and soul, that I was destined to be a Dad.
And not just any dad, but a Conscious Dad. A dad who is peaceful, passionate, patient, present, playful and loving. Throw in being kind, understanding, strong, flexible, forgiving, compassionate and supportive and you've got what I aspire to be each and every day for Skye, Liz and life.
Do I fall short from time to time? You bet I do. And you're gonna hear about it. Because my intention is to be as transparent, honest, real and raw with you.
Do I consider myself a parenting expert? Not even remotely, but I am constantly learning and leaning into my emerging edge. I hope to be able to support you in doing the same.
For far to long, I kept so much of who I actually was just out of frame so I could appear strong, stable and "flawless". It's my belief far too many men do this, and it's a recipe for disaster.
It's time for men, in particular Dads, to be the way-showers for our children, as to what it means to be emotionally intelligent enough to be strong yet soft, firm yet gentle, driven yet flexible, stable yet vulnerable, confident yet humble. We're talking about 'integrated, mindful parenting'. In short, my goal is to create a new "frequency" for fatherhood.
In the 30 years I've been in the fitness/wellness industry, I've been blessed to work with clients of all walks of life. And I have had the good fortune to work with companies such as Turner Broadcasting, Amazon, Runner’s World, Men’s Fitness, and been featured in numerous ads and commercials for companies such as adidas, Nike, New Balance, Champion and Gatorade.
I guess you could say, I’ve been around the block a few times.
But after years of searching, I know in my bones I’ve found my True North, I’m living on purpose in the most important job of my life…BEING A DAD.
Of all the accomplishments/titles/roles I’ve had, this is by far the one I’m most proud of.
Looking forward to getting to know you.
Cheers, Adam